My Husband Is Acting Superior to Me, and My Patience Is Wearing Thin. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My husband is acting superior to me. Outside, he pretends he doesn’t know me. He doesn’t eat what I cook. He hides money from me. When he gets close, my heart feels bad vibes. I was advised to seek divorce. I can’t. What can I do? Is there […]

My Husband Lied to Me, Disrespects Me, Took Back and Spent Most of My Dowry. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My husband has some very good qualities but the bad ones are becoming increasingly unbearable. He treats me less respectfully than before. He pressured me into giving back my dowry and spent it. He misses his prayers. He ignores me and refuses to share the responsibility of birth […]

My Brother Is an Extremely Controlling Husband. How Can I Help His Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My brother believes that if one is to practice Islam in the most extreme way, one will avoid all family destruction. His wife is not allowed to leave their home, even to sit in the backyard. She cannot visit her family on her own. She needs permission to […]

Do I Need a Divorce to Avoid Marrying the Man I’ve Accepted A Proposal From?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: As salam alaykum, Do I need a divorce to avoid marrying a man whose proposal I previously accepted? Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah, No, an accepted proposal or engagement does not need a divorce in order to be broken off as it is considered to be a promise. […]

Does a Working Woman Have to Give Her Salary to Her Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: If a woman earns her own income, from an Islamic point of view, is she obligated to give her entire salary to her husband? Or should this be based on mutual understanding? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you […]

I Got Engaged to My Cousin to Please My Parents. How Do I Break off My Engagement Without Being Harsh?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I got engaged one year ago to my cousin. I dislike him; he is not well-qualified, but I could not refuse my parents. I hoped that I would start loving him, but this did not happen. I cannot sleep at night. These thoughts affect my studies. How do […]

I Waited Four Years to Be Married to the Man I Love. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am in love with a man who proposed to me four years ago. He said he would marry me soon, but it has been four years. Now he said he cannot marry me due to job and family restrictions. What should I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi […]

Can a Muslim Boy Meet a Non-Muslim Girl in a Public Place, Unchaperoned, to Discuss Her Interest in Marriage?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Given the current Western society, if a Muslim boy were to meet a non-Muslim girl in a public space to discuss marriage and to gauge her interest in Islam, does she need to be chaperoned? She might not be comfortable with it. Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, […]