My Father Will Disown Me If I Marry the Man I Choose. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I met someone at university who is a practicing Muslim. We both come from the same cultural background and we don’t have any valid Islamic reason as to why this marriage cannot go ahead. My mother told me that I could find my own spouse in […]

How Do You Know If a Potential Spouse Is Religious?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I have heard of the Hadith about the four reasons of why individuals getting married with the deen being the most important. However, because you aren’t allowed to talk extensively etc, how are you meant to determine whether the person is religious? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi […]

Is a Muslim Woman Allowed to Marry a Non-Religious Man Who Is a Singer?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Is a Muslim woman allowed to marry a non-religious man who is a singer? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us. Please forgive me for the delay. Marriage As long as the […]

Do I Get Married to an Unattractive Man I Have Not Spoken to and Do Not Like, Just to Please My Aging Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Several proposals of mine have not worked out. Currently, I’ve gotten a proposal from a family friend’s relative. The boy is almost 40 years old. They are claiming that he’s really obedient and religious and strong in character and all. I don’t find him attractive. He’s […]

Can My Wife Divorce Me Without My Agreement?

Answered by Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat Question: Assalamu alaykum My marriage took place about 5-6 years ago. My in-laws have filled for Khula’ (in Pakistan’s family court), without my agreement. 1. Is the Khula’ given in non such courts without agreement of the Husband accepted in Shariah ? 2. Will the marriage (Nikah) of the girl […]

I Am in Recovery from Sex Addiction. How Do I Tell My Prospective Wife This?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am a man in recovery from sex addiction. Even though there has been a lot of progress, long periods of sexual sobriety still elude me. I am aware that marriage isn’t going to solve my problem but I don’t want to wait for an year […]

I Am Unhappily Married to a Man My Father Chose for Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I was married to a boy chosen by my father. After marriage, I found out that he is completely different from my expectations. He is not religious, he doesn’t understand my feelings or my needs. Soon after marriage, he started to yell at me about small […]

My Husband Refuses to Sleep Next to Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband is obsessed with cleaning the floors of our apartment nearly every day. It is driving me nuts! He is obsessed with having the apartment spotlessly clean. I can understand that, but it is going too far. If I don’t clean everything the way he […]

I Fell in Love so Deeply with Someone and Cannot Forget Him. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Two years ago, I fell deeply in love with someone, just like in the movies. Does this ‘love at first sight’ exist in Islam? His aqidah and Islamic attitudes are questionable, though. What do I do? I feel sad and confused. Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa […]

My Mother Rejects Suitors Even Before I Meet Them. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, If a marriage proposal comes from someone out of state, my mom automatically rejects it. I’ve never even had the opportunity to sit down with a single person that has asked for my hand. I won’t even find out a person has asked until days if […]