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Abusive, Toxic, and Mentally Ill Mother

  Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am a Muslim woman in her early twenties, living with my parents and I have always had trouble in my household. I have grown up in a toxic and violently abusive environment with consistent emotional, verbal and psychological abuse, and at many times physical abuse. […]

Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives a detailed answer on being asked by parents to cut ties with a brother. I have an older brother who is very dear to me (raised me and my sister very well). He is a really great guy, but recently he has “fallen in love” with a horrible woman. She […]

Do I Have to Live with My Parents?

Ustadh Tabraze Azam is asked if a Muslim child is obliged to live with their parents and if not, how to conduct oneself toward them in the best of ways. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am 23 years old and live with my parents. I am the only son in the […]

My Parents Want Me to Finish My Studies Before Getting Married. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have been engaged to my fiancé for three years but he lives in a different country. My parents are insistent that I need to finish my education and get a job first. They feel my fiancé’s visa needs to be sorted first as being away from each […]

Dealing With Difficult Parents and Keeping Promises

Answered by Saira AbuBakr Question: Assalamu alaikum I find it hard to keep some of my promises and I live with a father who is sometimes cruel. I’m trying to find a way to stay on the right path, but it is hard.  Could you please advise me? Answer: Walaikum salaam wa RahmatuAllah, May Allah […]

How Can I Be a Dutiful Son While Maintaining Independence from Controlling Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Jameela Jafri Question: I wish to be a good son and fulfill my responsibilities. However I feel overwhelmed by my parents approach towards me. I feel I cannot be independent and live my own life and that my parents expect too much from me. How can I be a good son yet […]

Parental Demands Scared Away Potential Spouse

Answered by Dr. Bano Murtuja Question: Someone asked to marry me, and I was deeply interested in him.  My parents agreed, but they set unreasonable conditions, so he refused.  I got my parents to agree to take away their conditions, but the brother still refused. My problem is I can’t forget about him.  Other people […]

Dealing With a Dysfunctional Relationship With Parents

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: Assalamu alaykum, I am a Muslim female in my 20s. I live alone away from my mother.  I, for most of my life, have spoken to my mother everyday. As I have grown older, however, I have found it to be difficult to speak with my mother everyday, as […]

Must We Obey Our Parents If They Forbid Us From Attending Beneficial Islamic Gatherings?

Answered by Sidi Abdullah Anik Misra Question: I have heard of a hadith of a Yemeni man who wanted to see the Prophet (pbuh) but his mother was elderly and needed him, so the Prophet (pbuh) told the man to stay where he was. (If know of a reference for this hadith or its authenticity, […]

Balancing Marital Privacy Against Living with My Mother

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: I have recently gotten married (Nikaah) to a man living in another state, and my mother had told him that he is not allowed to see me until we have the walimah which is 6 months after. We accepted her request although we really want to be together. Now […]