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Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives a detailed answer on being asked by parents to cut ties with a brother. I have an older brother who is very dear to me (raised me and my sister very well). He is a really great guy, but recently he has “fallen in love” with a horrible woman. She […]

Living with Non-Mahram Male Relatives

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasattackles the delicate question of a mother’s amana and a young woman living with non-mahram male cousins. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. My mother whose health isn’t the best has given my close auntie (her sister) an amanathree — that if (Allah forbid) my mother passes away before I am […]

Caring for Elders Suffering from Dementia

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat is asked for advice on how best to treat an elder in one’s care, who suffers from dementia, within the bounds of Islam. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have a question. Where and how can I draw the line between what my religion has taught me, and what […]

Keeping Family Ties Through Intergenerational Trauma – Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil reflects on why she travels with two small children, and how to break the cycle of  intergenerational trauma. I started to write this while my two jetlagged daughters were finally fast asleep. My husband, young daughters and I have just returned from our annual visit to Sydney, Australia. There, I finally […]

Reconnecting With Family–Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah, now a mother of two, looks back at her Eid al-Adha, spent reconnecting with her estranged father. Last Eid, my eldest daughter turned two. This year, she is three, and is now a proud big sister. My youngest daughter just turned 7 months. Alhamdulilah, this Eid, I am now a mother of two. […]

Can I Maintain Family Ties Despite My Parents Wishes?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum My uncle cheated my family. My mother forbids me to have relations with his family. I know that my uncle is wrong. What should I do? Answer: Wa’alaykum assalam. Jazakum Allah kahyr for writing in. May Allah reward you for trying to maintain your family relations, despite […]

Can I Break Relations With Abusive In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, A few months ago, my sister-in-law started trouble with me through my father-in-law. She started to bring up “problems” I was unaware of. I was being accused of disrespecting her in her own home. I am very dumbfounded about this. My sister-in-law never spoke to me […]

How to Maintain Ties of Kinship Despite Hateful Siblings?

Answered by Ustadh Sharif Rosen Question: Assalam alaykum I have been living abroad for several years now and visit my home country every 2 years. My elder sister hates me. My other sisters have taken her side and thus don’t reply to any of my letters or gifts. Now even my father doesn’t want me […]

How Can I Tell My Family From Abroad That I Do Not Support Their Backwards Thinking?

Answered by Ustadha Umm Umar Question: Assalam alaykum, I have recently had close relatives from abroad. They are very cultural. They are not used to seeing girls getting an education and working. The only thing they think is important to a lady is for to get married and have kids. They ask and tell me: […]

Ties that Bind: (30 Days, 30 Deeds), by Shaykh Muhammad Adeyinka Mendes

Ties that Bind: Reconnect with relatives who have become distant (30 Days, 30 Deeds), by Shaykh Muhammad Adeyinka Mendes 30 Days, 30 Deeds Sacred Acts to Transform the Heart Every night, our scholars in residence explore one simple deed that could have a far-reaching spiritual impact on our lives – and the lives of others. Every […]