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Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives a detailed answer on being asked by parents to cut ties with a brother. I have an older brother who is very dear to me (raised me and my sister very well). He is a really great guy, but recently he has “fallen in love” with a horrible woman. She […]

Do I Have to Obey My Parents If They Stop Me From Listening to Religious Talks?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum My father, due to me becoming more religious, has banned me from listening to tafsir of the Quran. Can I disobey? Also he has requested that everything else Islamic I listen to from the internet should be sent to him. Is it reasonable? Answer: Assalam alaykum. I […]

Can I Make up Fasts Even If My Parents Prevent Me From Doing So?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum I want to make up my fasts from previous years however I am only allowed by my parents to do so once a week. It causes my mother mental and emotional distress every time it comes up. Should I push it? Is this shirk in any way? […]

I Am Estranged From My Abusive Parents. Am I in a State of Disobedience to Allah?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Since I was very young, I was physically and psychologically abused by my parents. I became very depressed and confused. It resulted in me not praying and committing sins. I then decided to distance myself from them, and from then on, my life got a lot better. I […]

I Work in My Parents’ Restaurant and They Do Not Let Me Pray on Time. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I work at my parents’ restaurant. They wait till they get home to make their prayers up. They won’t let me pray at work and I have to make them up at home. I told them I was going to leave school and find another job to be […]

How Should I Deal With a Mentally Ill Mother?

Answered by Shaykh Umer Mian Question: As Salam Alaykum, My mother is seriously mentally ill. She fluctuates between emotional extremes. Because of this I have endured a lifetime of severe emotional abuse. I can’t go on living this way with her bullying me. What can I do? Answer: Wa alaikum as-salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu […]

When May Parents Be Disobeyed, and How?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani Question: Assalam’aleykum A sister is facing difficulties with her parents. It seems nothing she does pleases them. She is organizing a fundraiser but her father accuses her of using it as a means to do wrong. She also teaches 13-15 year old girls in an Islamic school; her father does […]

Should I Listen to My Husband or My Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Having been recently married, I am noticing a general conflict between the advices from my husband and my mother. I love both of them and do not wish to upset either of them. Should I obey to my husband or my mother? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, […]

My Mother Does Not Want Me to Read up on Death and Judgement Day – Is It Haram for Me to Disobey Her?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My mom doesn’t want me searching up things about Judgement Day and death. Is it haram for me to disobey her and educate myself on the Hereafter, death and Judgement Day? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for […]

Do I have to Obey my Parents if they Order me To Leave Sunnah Acts?

Answered by Ustadh Shuaib Ally Question: Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, Since the beard is sunnah and not wajib in the Shafi’i madhhab, I was wondering what the ruling was for following/performing sunnah acts when parents forbid it without a good reason? Answer: Assalaamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullah, Dealing Righteously with Parents Dealing well with […]