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Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels on the role and duty of daughter toward parents, being a woman, feeling isolated overwhelmed by expectations.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am tired. I don’t feel like I understand my purpose anymore. Especially when I see so many of my sisters in Islam living […]

Marriage and Severed Ties of Kinship

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil advises on mending relations with estranged parents and marrying with their blessing.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. My parents got divorced when I was 3 and I ended up with my father who raised me. I didn’t see my mother for almost 19 years, until I finally […]

Unfaithful Husband Working Overseas

Ustadh Farid Dingle untangles the difficulties a wife faces when her husband who works overseas decides to marry a second wife but wishes to divorce his first on no grounds. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am married for six years. I have two kids. My son is five years old and […]

Husband in Conflict with In-Laws

Ustadh Farid Dingle gives advice on how to heal relations between a husband and his in-laws, improve communication, and how the Fatiha is an excellent dua. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have been married for 7 yrs. Masha Allah everything has been fine but suddenly my husband’s behavior towards my family […]

Marrying a Practicing Non-Hijabi

Ustada Raidah Shah Idil is asked if marrying a practicing sister who does not wear hijab is permissible. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. Where I come from, there are many Muslims that practice Islam without their parents’ consent. I belong to such a family, but alhamduliLlah things have changed a lot for […]

Muslim Woman to Marry Christian Man

Ustadha Raidha Shah Idil makes it clear that a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian man. If a Muslim woman wants to marry a Christian man on the condition that he will allow their children to be practicing Muslims, and their life and all matters will be handled as per Islamic teaching, then is there […]

Feeling Discouraged about Marriage

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil answers concerns about not feeling acceptable as a potential spouse. I am an American college student trying to finish half my din. I have maintained haya all my life and avoided speaking unnecessarily with men, so I asked my parents to help me search. Unfortunately I’ve been met with rejection before […]

Reading Romance–Erotica with One’s Spouse

Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan gives the ruling on reading romance–erotica with one’s spouse. Is it halal or makruh to read romance or erotic stories with one’s wife? Thank you. Thank you for your question. The reading of romantic or erotic novels essentially leads one to draw images of romance or sexual relations to mind. If, when […]

A Dua to Make Someone My Spouse

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked whether there are specific dua one can recite that makes the desired person become one’s spouse. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am interested in marrying my friend, but the problem is that he does not want to get married right now. He likes me, but […]

Contemplating Suicide Because No One Will Marry Me

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil answers a question on how to deal with suicidal thoughts and feeling despair about not being able to find a marriage partner. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I pray five times a day but feel like my life is coming to an end. Allah has not given me […]