10: Marriage and Severed Ties of Kinship- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah answers a question from a man whose mother, who lives very far away and suffers emotional problems, cut him off, after she was unable to meet the girl he was considering for marriage. Things didn’t work out with her, but his mother still does not answer his calls or messages, […]

09- Divorce Due to Lack of Household Support- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah addresses an all-too-common problem; a wife whose husband does not help with the household chores or taking care of the children, leaving her exhausted and hopeless, to the point that she is considering divorce. Ustadha Raidah points out the importance of both parents being present in their children’s lives. Not […]

08-Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah tackles a common problem among Muslim youth; not having a sense of direction in life, and managing parents’ expectations. One of three sisters, the questioner feels like she has lived her life for her parents, and her father is still dissatisfied with everything she does. She is the only one still […]

07 Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother – Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode,  Ustadha Raidah tackles another complex family problem, as she is asked whether a person should choose between their parents or keeping ties with their brother. The questioner is a young woman whose brother fell in love with a woman four years ago, who is extremely disrespectful to his family. They are determined […]

06-Siblings and Verbal Abuse- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah covers a very sensitive and frighteningly common topic: verbal abuse by authority figures. A person is asking for her advice after an elder sibling frequently verbally abuses them, under the pretense that it is allowed because Islam requires a person to respect their elders. Ustadha Raidah clarifies that Islam does […]

05: Must I marry my cousin?- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah answers a question from a man who is afraid that his cousin will suffer if he does not marry her, as there is no other suitable match for her. In addition, he is interested in marrying another woman and feels they are a good match for each other. Ustadha Raidah […]

04-I hate my future wife’s father- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah gives guidance to a man who is getting married, but whose future father-in-law is judgemental and rude, and might be the cause of clashes between the couple.  Each person will deal with difficult people in their lives, she explains, and we have the agency to allow these experience to let […]

03- Mother and husband not on good terms- Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In this episode, Ustadha Raidah deals with a heartbreaking situation where a mother is trying to blackmail her daughter to divorce her husband and is threatening to confiscate her passport. Ustadha Raidah delves into the mental reasons behind abuse: from anxiety to control tendencies to narcissistic personalities. These problems usually do not happen overnight and […]

02- Telling Future Wife About Pornography Addiction-Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah deals with a question from a man who is struggling with an addiction to pornography, trying to overcome it despite several relapses and is wondering how much he needs to disclose to a future wife. She speaks about the process of finding a spouse, and how much one needs to tell them whether it […]

01 -Skin Color Modification-Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

In her first podcast, Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels a woman, who is concerned about disobeying her parents. Although she is happy with her complexion, they are pressuring her to use skin-lightening creams, as they are worried that nobody will marry her. Ustadha Raidah reminds us that everything is in the hands of Allah, and He […]