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Refusal to Pay the Dowry.

Answered by Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat Question: Assalamu alaykum What to do if a husband does not want to pay a dowry signed in a marriage contract? He cancelled my return flight to him so now he can keep ignoring me. The source of the marriage conflict is the fact I didn’t find comfortable living with […]

My Husband Is a Convert to Islam but He Has Gone Back to Drinking.

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband is a convert to Islam. He took his Islam seriously when we first married. Since we moved to the house he was raised in, everything has changed. We are far away from my parents and our Muslim friends. I discovered by accident that he […]

Is My Marriage Still Valid?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am a mother of small children, feel very suicidal and am self-harming. My husband has been unfaithful to me for many years, refuses to change his ways, leave the house, get a job, or accept help from my family. His family doesn’t want him either […]

I Am Unhappily Married to a Man My Father Chose for Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I was married to a boy chosen by my father. After marriage, I found out that he is completely different from my expectations. He is not religious, he doesn’t understand my feelings or my needs. Soon after marriage, he started to yell at me about small […]

My Husband Refuses to Sleep Next to Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband is obsessed with cleaning the floors of our apartment nearly every day. It is driving me nuts! He is obsessed with having the apartment spotlessly clean. I can understand that, but it is going too far. If I don’t clean everything the way he […]

Can I Hide My Interest in Sufism from My Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I have been reading and studying about Sufism, and I really want to start my path to Ihsan, to Allah Ta’ala. My husband is totally against that. For him, the Sufis make innovations, their practices are out of Qur’an and the sunna of our Beloved Prophet […]

My Husband and I Are Drifting Apart and He Emotionally Abuses Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband and I are drifting apart. We were in love once, but it has been two years into our marriage, and things are completely different. He is still in touch with a girl whom he had an affair with. I am a strong believer – […]

Is My Family Allowed to Force Me to Stay Married to an Abusive Husband?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum My husband never showed much kindness and care towards me. He also has been abusive. I asked him for divorce and since then I can’t see him as a husband anymore. My family used the kids to pressure me to stay married but I do not love […]

Am I Destined to Suffer in an Unhappy Marriage?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Asslamu Alaykum I have been married for 10 years and have three children. I have suffered verbal abuse throughout the marriage and some physical abuse during the early years. My children witnessed many incidents. I have tried my best but I am unhappy. Although his behaviour has improved, […]

How Can I Leave a Man Who Doesn’t Want to Divorce Me?

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, I lived with my husband for 2 years. After that he sent me back to my parent’s home. He told me to not came back home. So for 2 years now I’m leaving alone with my 2 years old son. He never called to ask after his […]