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I Am Unhappily Married to a Man My Father Chose for Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I was married to a boy chosen by my father. After marriage, I found out that he is completely different from my expectations. He is not religious, he doesn’t understand my feelings or my needs. Soon after marriage, he started to yell at me about small […]

My Husband Refuses to Sleep Next to Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband is obsessed with cleaning the floors of our apartment nearly every day. It is driving me nuts! He is obsessed with having the apartment spotlessly clean. I can understand that, but it is going too far. If I don’t clean everything the way he […]

Can I Hide My Interest in Sufism from My Husband?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I have been reading and studying about Sufism, and I really want to start my path to Ihsan, to Allah Ta’ala. My husband is totally against that. For him, the Sufis make innovations, their practices are out of Qur’an and the sunna of our Beloved Prophet […]

My Husband and I Are Drifting Apart and He Emotionally Abuses Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband and I are drifting apart. We were in love once, but it has been two years into our marriage, and things are completely different. He is still in touch with a girl whom he had an affair with. I am a strong believer – […]

Is My Family Allowed to Force Me to Stay Married to an Abusive Husband?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum My husband never showed much kindness and care towards me. He also has been abusive. I asked him for divorce and since then I can’t see him as a husband anymore. My family used the kids to pressure me to stay married but I do not love […]

Am I Destined to Suffer in an Unhappy Marriage?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Asslamu Alaykum I have been married for 10 years and have three children. I have suffered verbal abuse throughout the marriage and some physical abuse during the early years. My children witnessed many incidents. I have tried my best but I am unhappy. Although his behaviour has improved, […]

How Can I Leave a Man Who Doesn’t Want to Divorce Me?

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, I lived with my husband for 2 years. After that he sent me back to my parent’s home. He told me to not came back home. So for 2 years now I’m leaving alone with my 2 years old son. He never called to ask after his […]

My Husband Married Me for My Visa and Abuses Me. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I realise that now my husband married me for my visa, less than a year ago. He has now broken every single agreement made for the marriage, some of which includes that he will support and help me finish my studies, yet from the second day […]

Should I Leave My Husband Because of Religious Incompatibility?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, 1) My husband works at his father’s restaurant, which sells alcohol. Is that permissible? 2) I live with my in laws. My husband does give his father money to roughly cover our costs and to contribute to the household but this is not an exact and […]

Is a Khulu’ the Solution to Leave an Abusive Husband? (Shafi’i)

Answered by Shaykh Abdurragmaan Khan Question: Assalam alaykum, Since the beginning of our marriage my husband has been disrespectful by calling me derogatory names and does not stop until I breakdown or cry. He repeats to me almost everyday that he will do what he wants and will not grant me a divorce out of […]