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Abusive, Toxic, and Mentally Ill Mother

  Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am a Muslim woman in her early twenties, living with my parents and I have always had trouble in my household. I have grown up in a toxic and violently abusive environment with consistent emotional, verbal and psychological abuse, and at many times physical abuse. […]

My Parents Emotionally and Physically Abuse Me. Can You Help Me?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My parents are abusive, both emotionally and physically. Mostly emotionally. All they care about is grades, not the emotional damage they do to me or the abuse. I am also severely depressed, and I have been for years because of them. They made me hate myself. […]

To What Extent of a Boundary Can I Have with Dysfunctional Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My parents have abused me for the span of my lifetime – physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and mentally manipulated/abused me. I now go and will continue to go therapy to help me cope with the internal destruction and damage inflicted upon me by these two […]

My Parents Are Angry with Me and Hit Me What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, If your parents are very angry with you because you lied to them and did bad things, and then they hit you and stop talking to you – what do you do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah […]

My Parents Humiliate Me Every Day. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Why are Muslims so aggressive and harsh towards children, and the scholars support it? My parents always bring up obeying parents because that’s what you do in Islam (mean while my Mom doesn’t wear a hijab, and my dad doesn’t pray at all). They have forced […]

My Parents Are Not Helping Me Get Married. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I’m 33, my elder brother is 36, and our parents are not very interested to get us both married. What does Islam say about the rights of children, which parents are obliged to fulfill for them? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds […]

How Do We Deal With Parents Who Emotionally Abuse Their Children?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, How do we deal with parents who bully us emotionally and spiritually? Who emotionally blackmail us and harm our mental health? Who say they don’t believe the troubles we go through, and that we’re just to be subservient without opinion? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, […]

Is It Permissible for My Husband to Cut Ties With His Abusive Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband’s parents have told their sons to divorce their wives and take their money. Alhamdulilah, my husband has stayed away from his parents and so our marriage has survived. He fears their bad influence, so he has cut ties with his parents. Is that permissible? […]

What Can I Do About My Parents’ Controlling Behaviour?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I became depressed after my cousin broke off our unofficial engagement, and my parents forbid me from working. I am extremely frustrated by my parents’ controlling behaviour. What can I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. Please forgive me […]

I Live With My Brother Who Hits His Toddler. What Can I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I live with my brother, his wife, and my two nephews. My brother and his wife are quite often physically and verbally abusive to my 2.5 year old nephew. When spoken to about this, they state that they can do what they want. It breaks my […]