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Can I Give Money to My Father, Knowing That He Will Spend It on Drugs?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My father does not pray and indulges in forbidden activities. Can I give him spending money even if I know he will spend it on drugs? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to […]

Can I Hate My Father?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Can a you fear or hate your father because of some bad opinions your mother taught you from a young age? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us. Father This is a […]

My Father Doesn’t Want Me to Marry My Best Friend’s Brother. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, I want to marry my best friend’s brother, but my father is not happy with this. His family approve of me, but my father doesn’t want anything to do with this. I am already in love with him. What do I do? Answer: Assalam alaykum wa […]

How Do I Deal With Having an Unfaithful Father?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My father has had a string of extra-marital affairs, and does not know that I know. What do I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us. Support Dear sister, you are […]

Parents – Your Door to Allah’s Acceptance, by Ustadh Uthman Bally

Sometimes a door to Allah is opened in the form of a good deed, such as praying or giving charity but then the door of acceptance is still closed. Through parents, this final door can be opened. Ustadh Uthman Bally recounts story upon wonderful story of how the relationship with our parents can have a major effect on our futures. […]

Is It a Must for My Father to Be There When I Will Marry My Wife?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum Is it a must for my father to be there when I will marry my wife? I have left my father in very bad terms a while ago. Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, Yes, it is possible to have a valid marriage without parental approval, yet this […]

Can I Change My Last Name Because It Reminds Me of Severe Childhood Abuse?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I have undergone extensive trauma therapy to recover from a childhood that has scarred me for life. I have confronted my father about my painful experiences and it was a disaster. Since this confrontation,  my last name has triggered anger and resentment because it is associated with my […]

My Father Teaches a Problematic Version of Islam in the Local Mosque. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My father has a deep aversion to the scholars of Islam. Despite this, he has persisted in teaching at the local Sunday School at the mosque. He spreads his strange ideas but his eloquence lends him an outward appearance of authority and people are swayed by him. 1) […]

Can I Still Speak to My Non-Practising Daughter, Who Chose to Be Artificially Inseminated?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My daughter is not a practicing Muslim and does not want to talk about Islam. She chose to be artificially inseminated. Her divorced mother supports her. She did this because she did not find the right man. What is my status, as her father? What can I do? […]

What Are the Financial Responsibilities of a Man Regarding His Children From a First Marriage?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: As salam alaykum, A man marries and has 2 daughters from this marriage but later divorces this first wife – taking no financial responsibility or responsibility of any sort for the two daughters. He then marries a second wife and has three daughters from this second marriage. Are the […]