Posts

Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels on the role and duty of daughter toward parents, being a woman, feeling isolated overwhelmed by expectations.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am tired. I don’t feel like I understand my purpose anymore. Especially when I see so many of my sisters in Islam living […]

Honesty towards Parents and Future Wife

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives advice on being honest to one’s loved ones. Question: Should I tell my parents and friends how I met my wife? Let’s say it was through a mutual friend. Do they need to know? Does my future wife needs to know if have broken my legs three times, or lets say […]

Caring for Elders Suffering from Dementia

Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat is asked for advice on how best to treat an elder in one’s care, who suffers from dementia, within the bounds of Islam. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have a question. Where and how can I draw the line between what my religion has taught me, and what […]

Mother and Husband Not on Good Terms

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked about a mother who vehemently dislikes the husband of a sister, and how she can best deal with the threats she faces. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. Should I get a divorce because my mother doesn’t like my husband, and says she never will? She said […]

I Want to Marry Someone Willing to Revert

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked for advice from a sister who wants to marry someone with a bad past who is willing to revert to Islam. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am 20 years old and want to get married to a young man, but he is non-Muslim. He says […]

How Should I Tell Parents About Becoming Muslim?

Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah Question: Assalamu alaykum I have a close friend who is 14 and has recently converted to Islam. He attends the Friday prayer in school but hasn’t been able to pray at home yet, due to his parents not knowing. How should he go about telling his parents? If their reaction […]

My Parents Are Always Fighting. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, I am so embarrassed by my parents’ fighting – it is so loud that even the neighbours can hear. They’ve been fighting for years, and because they’re old now, it’s really bad for their health. One morning, I got very angry and just exploded at them. […]

Is the Pleasure of Allah in the Pleasure of Our Parents?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Asslamu Alaykum 1. Is it true that the pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of our parents? 2. If so, then if we do something that makes our parents happy, proud and pleased, are we automatically making Allah happy, proud and pleased? 3. For example, if someone […]

Should I Seek Islamic Knowledge Despite the Prohibition of My Parents?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani Question: Assalamu alaykum Is it permissible to take the Step One Certificate course on this website if one is in need of that Fard Ayn Knowledge, whilst the parents prohibit him from listening or reading anything Islamic on the internet? Answer:  Walaikum assalam, I hope you’re doing well, insha’Allah. In […]

What Is the Best Way to Kiss My Parents?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum What is the sunnah/Islamic way of kissing parents? Is it on the palm of the hand, the cheeks, the forehead? Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah, It is permissible to kiss your parents, and praiseworthy if it will bring happiness into their hearts. All of the forms […]