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Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels on the role and duty of daughter toward parents, being a woman, feeling isolated overwhelmed by expectations.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am tired. I don’t feel like I understand my purpose anymore. Especially when I see so many of my sisters in Islam living […]

Can I Prevent a Child from Seeing His Birth Parents?

Answered by Ustadh Salman Younas Question: Asslamu Alaykum I have legal guardianship of a baby who is two years of age. Both his parents are addicts and have lost custody of their child. At present, neither parent has joined a rehabilitation programme to stay clean. I am looking after the child on my own – […]

My Mother Is Alone, Is It Permissible for Me to Move out of Her Home?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am a convert woman and I am about to get married. Do I move away from my mother, who is a single working parent? I am an only child. Also, she is Catholic and there are Idols, pictures, and sculptures everywhere. Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, […]

How Can I Deal With My Difficult Mother in a Respectful Way?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My mother has never been good at expressing her love towards me. Her behaviour has caused me a lot of pain. She forced me to marry a guy just because it would look good in the eyes of people and that marriage ruined my life. She lies all […]

Doubting My Ability to Suceed Due to Insults from Family and Friends

Answered by Shaykh Rami Nsour Question: Asalaamu Aluykum After failing to excel at school growing up, after a 2 year delay, I managed to get into a top ten University. Recently I failed one unit due to not studying something that was forced on me.   I have suffered a lot due to stress. The […]

Advising My Father to Keep a Beard

Answered by Shaykh Rami Nsour Question: I know it is disrespectful to tell your parents to do thing,  but I also know it is sunna to keep a beard and it is highly disliked to shave the beard. Is there a way that I can tell my father to keep his beard without being disrespectful. […]

Which Parent Has a Greater Right to Obedience Within the Home?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz A. Khan Question: Which parent has more right upon me when both my parents have differing requests upon me, with regards to matters of the house like cooking? For example, earlier today my mother had requested that I cooked for breaking of the fast. She desired that I cook the food […]

A Convert Dealing with Non-Muslim Parents

Answered by Sidi Abdullah Anik Misra Question: I reverted more than a year ago.  I’m 19 now. My parents live in Italy and I live in England with my sister. Now I am back to Italy again for the summer.  My present trouble is unless I tell my parents clearly that certain things are prohibited, I’ll […]