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Reflections on 2018 – Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

As December draws to a close, Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives some reflections on 2018 and the growth that she and her family experienced. I started to write this article when my daughters were asleep. Almost a year ago, my younger one was born in January.  Now I have an 11 month old and a […]

Keeping Family Ties Through Intergenerational Trauma – Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil reflects on why she travels with two small children, and how to break the cycle of  intergenerational trauma. I started to write this while my two jetlagged daughters were finally fast asleep. My husband, young daughters and I have just returned from our annual visit to Sydney, Australia. There, I finally […]

I Feel Unwanted by My Husband and Ashamed

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil tackles the delicate matter of a wife who feels unwanted and shamed by her husband, and gives advice on how to overcome it. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I feel so unwanted by my husband. When we first got married, physical intimacy was painful for me, and so […]

Keep Calm and Mother On–Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil reflects on her role as a parent, and how to deal with mistakes and stress on your parenting journey. I thought I was a kind and patient person. And then I had children. It is easy to be patient when everything is in harmony. It’s harder to be patient when there […]

Reconnecting With Family–Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah, now a mother of two, looks back at her Eid al-Adha, spent reconnecting with her estranged father. Last Eid, my eldest daughter turned two. This year, she is three, and is now a proud big sister. My youngest daughter just turned 7 months. Alhamdulilah, this Eid, I am now a mother of two. […]

Is Seeking Counselling A Sign of Weakness? by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil, a core member of the SeekersHub Answers service, offers much-needed, effective online pastoral care – to those who seek help. What about those who suffer in silence? Taha has reached rock bottom. Perhaps he is struggling with some form of addiction, or he is depressed. He has tried numbing his pain, […]

Seeking Out A Culturally-Sensitive Counsellor, by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Working for the SeekersHub Question and Answer service constantly reminds Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil about the importance of looking after our emotional and mental health. So many Muslims around the world are struggling with different forms of psychological imbalance. To name a few: anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and so on. These inward fractures mirror […]

Brief Advice on Seeking Knowledge from Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Some great practical courses are (in order of potential relevance!): 1) Islamic Marriage: Guidance For Successful Marriage and Married Life Always a big hit, and from personal experience, everything taught is applicable. Marriage tips 101. With Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, Ustadha Shireen Ahmed Lesson One: Marriage as Spiritual Act. Why Marriage is Half of Religion Lesson […]