Being a Daughter, a Woman, and Living This Life

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil counsels on the role and duty of daughter toward parents, being a woman, feeling isolated overwhelmed by expectations.   Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am tired. I don’t feel like I understand my purpose anymore. Especially when I see so many of my sisters in Islam living […]

Cutting Ties to In-laws

Ustadh Farid Dingle is asked if it is permissible to cut ties to in-laws who are abusive in order to ward off harm to oneself and one’s children. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I am in need of advice. As a daughter in law, I have cut ties with my husband’s brother […]

Husband in Conflict with In-Laws

Ustadh Farid Dingle gives advice on how to heal relations between a husband and his in-laws, improve communication, and how the Fatiha is an excellent dua. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have been married for 7 yrs. Masha Allah everything has been fine but suddenly my husband’s behavior towards my family […]

Marrying a Practicing Non-Hijabi

Ustada Raidah Shah Idil is asked if marrying a practicing sister who does not wear hijab is permissible. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. Where I come from, there are many Muslims that practice Islam without their parents’ consent. I belong to such a family, but alhamduliLlah things have changed a lot for […]

Muslim Woman to Marry Christian Man

Ustadha Raidha Shah Idil makes it clear that a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian man. If a Muslim woman wants to marry a Christian man on the condition that he will allow their children to be practicing Muslims, and their life and all matters will be handled as per Islamic teaching, then is there […]

Wife Confesses Pre-Marital Affair

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil is asked what to do if one finds out that one’s spouse was sinful before marriage. I am a 26 year old male who did his nikah a few months back. I had approached this girl’s family as she was hijabi and seemed pious and simple. Before our nikah, she had […]

Combined Wedding Feasts

Ustadh Farid Dingle is asked if it is permissible to hold two wedding feasts on the same day. May I get the details on whether there is anything such as combined wedding feasts in Islam? Is it recommended? For example, the elder brother and younger brother will get married in the same year but on […]

Re Previous Answer on Wife’s Conjugal Rights

Shaykh Jamir Meah clarifies certain aspects of a previous answer on a wife’s conjugal rights. I am writing to inquire a further look at this portion from a previous answer: What Does Islam Say About the Neglect of the Wife’s Sexual Rights? Islam already takes into account the fact that a woman may have times […]

Told by Parents to Cut Ties with Brother

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil gives a detailed answer on being asked by parents to cut ties with a brother. I have an older brother who is very dear to me (raised me and my sister very well). He is a really great guy, but recently he has “fallen in love” with a horrible woman. She […]

Feeling Discouraged about Marriage

Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil answers concerns about not feeling acceptable as a potential spouse. I am an American college student trying to finish half my din. I have maintained haya all my life and avoided speaking unnecessarily with men, so I asked my parents to help me search. Unfortunately I’ve been met with rejection before […]