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Husband in Conflict with In-Laws

Ustadh Farid Dingle gives advice on how to heal relations between a husband and his in-laws, improve communication, and how the Fatiha is an excellent dua. Question: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh. I have been married for 7 yrs. Masha Allah everything has been fine but suddenly my husband’s behavior towards my family […]

My Pregnant Wife Is Going Back to India – Does She Have to Stay with My Widowed Mother?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My wife has gone back to India as she is pregnant (5 months) with our first child. Does she have to stay in our house (with my mom) or in her parents house? My mom lives alone (with relatives nearby) and is not expecting her to […]

How Should I Behave With the In-Laws of My Children?

Answered by Shaykh Umer Mian Question: Assalamu alaykum Are there any guidelines to how we should behave with the in-laws of our children or siblings? Answer: Wa alaikum as-salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu A “cousin” is defined as follows: “a relative descended from one’s grandparent or more remote ancestor by two or more steps and […]

Can Zakat Money Be Used for Parents and In-Laws to Cover Medical Costs?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum Can zakat money be used for parents and in-laws to cover medical costs? Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, No, zakat cannot be given to your parents, but it can be given to your in-laws. Moreover, you cannot simply cover medical costs with zakat funds because there needs […]

Can My Spouse Give Her Zakat to My Parents?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum My spouse wants to give zakat to my parents who are poor. Can she? Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah, Yes, your spouse may give her zakat to your parents. The prohibition relates to giving zakat to your own parents, yet not to the parents of your […]

My Wife Broke Ties With My Parents. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam alaykum, My wife, children and I lived with my parents at the start of our marriage. My wife and mother faced many small problems that have escalated, and I was unable to solve these issues. Eventually we all had a very bad misunderstanding that led her to […]

Is It Obligatory for a Woman to Look After Her In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, Is it obligatory for a woman to look after her father-in-law and mother-in-law in the absence of her husband? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for reaching out to us. In-Laws It is the husband’s obligation […]

My Wife Says It’s Unislamic for My Parents to Keep Secrets Between Us. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My wife says it’s unislamic for my parents to speak to me privately and keep secrets between her and me. My parents says its unislamic that the wife wants to know about family matters which they are uncomfortable sharing with her. What do I do? Answer: […]

My In-Laws Are Insulted When I Do Not Eat Their Store-Bought Meat. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam aleykum, My husband and I are very particular about the food that we eat. We buy farm-slaughtered meat, but do not force my husband’s family to do the same. When visiting them, I pack my own food so that my kids and I have something to eat. […]

I Am Stuck Between My Mother and My Wife. What Does Islam Say?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am the only son, and am stuck between my mother and my wife. I have been trying to solve this issue over the last few years by using proofs from the Qur’an and Hadith, but it hasn’t worked. My wife has left to live in her own home […]