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My Wife Does Not Want to Move in With My Elderly Mother and Disabled Brother. What Do I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: My elderly mother lives alone at home. I am her youngest child, and I live with my wife and children in our own home. I would like to move back in with my mother but my wife is does not want to because of the neighbourhood and my […]

How To Manage Problems With In-Laws – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

How To Manage Problems With In-Laws. A Muslim Perspective from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani The closest relationship a person will ever experience in their lifetime is with their spouse. In this SeekersGuidance seminar, we learn how to cultivate this union to the fullest, how to overcome common hurdles, and how to maintain a high degree of moral conduct and […]

My In-Laws Spoil My Child and Are a Negative Influence. What Should I Do?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: Assalam’aleykum, My in-laws spoil my daughter, criticise me on how I treat her, and I fear that they will be a negative influence on her as they are less practising that my husband and me. What should I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this […]

Are My Grandparents’ Siblings and My Father-In-Law’s Brothers From My Unmarriageable Kin (Mahram)?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question: Assalam alaykum, 1. Are my grandparents siblings mahram to me? 2. Are my father-in-law’s brothers (uncles-in-law) mahram to me? Answer: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, A person is from your unmarriageable kin (mahram) when they are immediately related to you, (a) by blood (qaraba), (b) through marriage (sihriyya) or (c) […]

Do I Have the Right to Demand From My Husband to Not Live With My In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am pregnant, newly in hijab, live with my in-laws and am struggling with lack of privacy. I have my own room but have to share a bathroom and shower with my brother-in-law and his wife. What do I do? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray […]

Can In-Laws Force a Daughter-In-Law to Have a Child?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: In Islam, can in-laws pressure or force a daughter-in-law to have a child? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for clarifying this sensitive issue. Force No, in-laws cannot force a daughter-in-law to have a child. The issue of […]

My Brother-In-Law Is Violent. Do I Have the Right to Move Out?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question: I am extremely worried. I am married and live with my in-laws. However, my younger brother-in-law has a mental issue. He screams, swears and hits his family members. Now matters are getting worse. Can I move out with my husband? Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I pray […]

How to Handle Mean In-Laws?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam Question:Assalam ‘aleykum. I have moved in with my husband and in-laws. Since I moved in, my mother in law has been acting differently with me. She makes comments daily, usually saying that I can’t bring up my son properly. My sister in law has periods where she won’t talk to […]

In-Laws Leaving Me No Privacy: What is the Proper Response?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question:Aslaamu’alaikum, I have been happily married to my husband for 2 years now but the fact that we live next to my in-laws makes things really difficult. My brothers in law enter my house whenever they want leaving me no privacy and my mother in law is extremly cold […]

Dealing With Non-Muslim In-laws Who Dislike Muslims

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Question: Assalamu alaykum, My question is about marriage and how to deal with future in-laws who are not Muslim. If a woman wishes to marry a convert whose mother is not willing to meet her because she is Muslim and wears the hijab then should this affect her decision to […]